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The Premier Lesbian and Bisexual Matchmaking Service

Welcome to Little Gay Book! Dr. Frankie specializes in lesbian matchmaking and bisexual matchmaking for singles in the San Francisco Bay Area, Los Angeles, San Diego, New York and Hawaii. She is a doctor of clinical psychology, a nationally recognized relationship expert and coach, with years of ...

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May10 RELATIONSHIP CURE 101
As we all know communication is the cornerstone of any significant and lasting relationship. Here are nine great ways to improve your communication. Below I have illustrated ways to make specific requests and/or complaints by describing the exact behavior that you want or do not like. Do your best to stay away from “you” statements such as, “you always, why can’t you,” people react defensively and resolving the conflict becomes unlikely. Start by using “I” statements. Remember these are skills that take time and practice to develop and can be implemented at any stage of any type of relationship.  
Posted May 10, 2013 by Dr. Frankie
Apr10 DR. FRANKIE'S GUIDE TO SUCCESSFUL DATING
Believe it or not I was single once too. I know from first hand experience that dating can sometimes feel like a chore. My advice to the single ladies is keep the faith! Don’t get discouraged! I believe there is someone special for everyone; and it’s just a matter of the right people meeting at the right time, with maybe a little smidgen of good luck. Some of these factors you can control, but others you can’t. I always recommend stacking the cards in your favor by taking charge of things you are able to control. In the spirit of self-improvement I introduce my list of dating “do’s”.  
Posted April 10, 2013 by Dr. Frankie
Feb07 CYCLE OF VIOLENCE
Tension in the relationship begins to build. The abuser can be emotionally abusive and behavior becomes more frequent, hostile, and for longer durations of time. During this phase the abused individual usually tries to appease, apologize, and/or avoid perceived conflict to cope with emotional abuse; this is done in an attempt to reduce tension and reduce abuse. As the tension increases, strategies to reduce tension are unsuccessful and verbal abuse may become more frequent. During this phase abusers’ commonly yell, swear, threaten, criticize, and/or use angry gestures. Communication continues to breaks down, stress builds in the relationship, and the abused individual senses danger.  
Posted February 7, 2013 by Dr. Frankie

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FRATERNIZING WITH THE "ENEMY" CAN BE A NON-ISSUE (REALLY!)
Dr. Frankie Bashan, Psy.D., a San Francisco-based relationship expert, psychologist, and professional matchmaker for the lesbian community, shares her opinion with Match.com's Happen Magazine.
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RULES FOR LESBIAN DATING
Dr. Frankie Bashan has witnessed the things lesbians can do to make their relationships work and things that often cause relationships to fail. Here are Dr. Frankie Bashan’s rules for lesbian dating.
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DR. FRANKIE BASHAN: LESBIAN MATCHMAKER
Introducing Dr. Frankie Bashan in About.com's Lesbian Life.
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