Feeling Compromised |
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Dear Dr. Frankie,
My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. Last year she dropped a bombshell and decided to go abroad and study for her Master's degree overseas. She basically did what she wanted without taking my feelings into consideration. Last week she called and said she wants the freedom to sleep with other women even though she doesn't want to have a relationship with them. Honestly, I hate this idea and it makes me distrust whatever she is doing over there. I feel like I'm stuck in a bad situation where if I say no she'll just do whatever she wants or else not do it and resent me, but if I say yes I'm agreeing to something I don't want and is against my morals.
Dear Feeling Compromised,
As I am sure you know, this arrangement will not work for everyone regardless of how well crafted the rules may be. It sounds like you might be one of those people. Unfortunately if you decide to try this out and find out it's not for you, then you might find that it's in your best interest to end the relationship so you both have the freedom to get your needs met. When she comes back from her studies you can always try to pick things up where you left off if it feels right.
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