Lonely and Lost

Dear Lonely and Lost,

Have you considered having a long distance relationship? It might not be ideal, but if you met the right person in time one of you could always consider relocating. If you are open to a long distance relationship you will increase your changes of meeting someone to share your life with. Choose several online dating sites and post a profile. Preferably post profiles on a large, national website since it’s fairly slim pickings in your immediate area.

I strongly suggest you complete a profile at my company, littlegaybook.com, because I often search areas outside of Los Angeles, the San Francisco Bay Area and New York.

Women from all over the world have contacted me and I am working hard to expand outside these major metropolitan areas. The database is confidential and never browsed; it is only accessed by me and LGB staff as we make matches for our clients who work with us individually.

Do some footwork! Find out if there are activities, events or an LGBT organization with meetings near your town that you can start attending. Think of activities you could participate in that might not be specifically geared to lesbians, yet we are often curiously overrepresented in. Hmmmm...Consider a women’s softball league, volunteer at an animal shelter, organize an organic community vegetable garden. Yes, these are stereotypes but pull no punches!

Desperate times call for desperate measures!

The one thing I know for sure is that waiting around and expecting to meet someone in a small gay community isn’t the way to go. Step out of your comfort zone and start making new connections and relationships outside of your area.  If all else fails then consider relocating. It’s a huge decision but what better motivation than the real possibility of finding love and human companionship?