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Dear Dr. Frankie, Why am I gay? -Questioning Dear Questioning, I think we could look at this question in many different ways; on a personal, social, biological, and spiritual level. Finding personal meaning and an identity in being gay is one question, as for reasons why, that could differ pending on how you view the world. Epidemiological studies of sexual orientation have found that
Dear Dr. Frankie, My partner and I recently split after 10 years together. There are a lot of underlying issues but his cheating was too much. I am 38 now and find the dating scene to be scary. I have always been optimistic but finding myself alone again I find myself in unfamiliar waters. Any advise where to go from here? -New
Dear Dr. Frankie, I'm 2 yrs sober and I've been single for almost the same amount of time. If I'm to avoid alcohol type situations how can I meet lesbians without going to the clubs I used to go to? -Sober Dear Sober, I would do some research online and find lesbian events that occur outside of the club scene. Depending on where you
Dear Dr. Frankie, I met the woman I believe to be my soulmate about 2.5 years ago. I did not jump into a relationship with her because I wanted to be sure. After months of deliberation, I finally gave in to my feelings and decided to be with her. At that time, she had already told me that she was
Dear Dr. Frankie, I was diagnosed with cancer this past Aug. Why is it that just when I start to know and the feelings start to grow, that the ladies disappear when I tell them? -Living with Cancer Dear Living with Cancer, It’s sad to say, but very true that many people when beginning a relationship will pull away if they perceive challenges, especially
Dear Dr. Frankie, I have been single and celibate for more than a decade. At some point along the way, my dry spell has become self-perpetuating.  Potential new partners are scared off by my situation, and my degree of sexual inexperience compared to other people my age makes me nervous about physical intimacy, killing the mood for me. I’m really not
Dear Dr. Frankie, Why do I feel like a dinosaur???? I'm butch. -Fossil Dear Fossil, What an interesting question.  This is a difficult question to answer not knowing what characteristic of a dinosaur you relate too. From my own personal experience as a femme lesbian I can tell you that years ago when I went to gay bars no one thought I was
Dear Dr. Frankie, I am extremely shy around women that I'm attracted to; so shy in fact that I will go out of my way to avoid them. Any advice on what I can do to stop this crazy behavior? -Social Phobia Dear Social Phobia, Social anxiety is quite common. I would start by testing the waters. Make a list of specific behaviors
Dear Dr. Frankie, I live in San Francisco and I am a single mother of a two-year-old boy. I work and study and I am having an extremely hard time meeting other women who are interested in the same things I am. I am attractive but I just don't know if I'm sending the right message out there. I feel like
Dear Dr. Frankie, I am a successful, driven, career-oriented woman at a Silicon Valley-based software company. I am in my early 30s and earn almost one million dollars a year. I am dating a wonderful woman who works in the non-profit sector. She attended Ivy League universities and has her PhD, she is extremely successful in her field. We’ve been dating
Dear Dr. Frankie, I just started dating someone who is really special to me. I don’t know how to, or even if I should, tell her that I experienced terrible physical and sexual abuse from a relative growing up. I don’t want to freak her out because things seem to be going really well, but I also want to have a
Dear Dr. Frankie, Am I too cynical of relationships? When I meet new people I sometimes find someone I am attracted to, but most just become friends. The charming ones become more inviting which is then followed by the "hit it off" stage. I'm not sure if I get scared or I'm just more interested in cultivating a large group
Dear Dr. Frankie, I was in a long-term marriage and had two awesome kids. I fell in love with a woman with whom my children and I have been living for about 10 years. I came out to my family and friends but not to my children. It hurts me so badly because I want to be honest about my relationship,
Dear Dr Frankie, I am a single Bisexual woman. I have been equally attracted to both genders all my life, however recently I have felt a stronger pull towards woman. This might have to do with my recent break up with my ex of nine years. I have gone to a local gay bar and also created an OkCupid account, but I