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November 2015

Holidays offer an added dimension of potential dating and relationship landmines to navigate.  Dating etiquette, family conflict, and holiday fatigue are all factors. If you’re newly dating someone you may question whether or not you want them to join in your holiday plans.  Be honest with yourself, do you want them to meet your family because they’re important to you and

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Dating is a lot like traveling across the country: Your destination is California, but the detour you took to the Grand Canyon was breath-taking, awe-inspiring and the memory you always talk about. Many of us want partners: Someone we can have dinner with, someone who will love us just the way we are and someone we have passionate chemistry with. That person

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Since I posted my advice to Lorrie about how to deal with her lack of attraction to her partner, I've received many emails from other women struggling with similar issues. Lesbian Bed Death is a terrible three-letter phrase for a very common relationship stage (and apparently a female-fronted goth punk band), that every long-term couple complains of. According to Wikipedia, lesbian bed

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Last week, I posted a blog post about the 7-year marriage contract.  I sent it to my email newsletter list and received some profound comments. One comment in particular was sent from April Hirschman (who asked that we let you know her name AND that she's single :) ) and was so beautifully crafted, we simply HAD to publish it in

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Till Death Do Us Part is antiquated. Try the 7 Year Marriage Contract instead. In my psychology practice, I see many couples in long term relationships struggling with feeling unfulfilled, loss of sexual energy and loving their partner, but feeling stuck. My advice? Try the 7-Year Marriage Contract. Based on the 7 year itch, the 7 year Marriage Contract is a way

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Sending out an SOS… Whether you realize it or not, you have a tremendous amount of power over how you feel. This is because your thoughts affect your emotions. So in the aftermath of a breakup, utilize this ability to change your emotions. This can be accomplished by using “opposite action to emotion.” This is a great technique to increase positive

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By now you've heard the news: The U.S. Supreme Court ruled 5-4 on today that it is legal for all Americans, no matter their gender or sexual orientation, to marry the people they love. Today's historic Supreme Court ruling means that same-sex couples will now have the freedom to marry throughout our country, and LGBTQ citizens who are already married will

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Radical Honesty involves stating your feelings bluntly, directly and in ways typically considered impolite.  For example, "I'm disgusted with you for X" where X is a statement of objective observation about the person towards whom the comment is being directed. The idea is to shift from the acceptable norm of "white lying" for the purpose of having a more truthful

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Dear Dr. Frankie, When is it safe to share my life-long struggle with depression and use of anti-depressant medication with someone I am dating? Dear Depressed, I do not recommend sharing such personal information too early on. On the contrary, waiting too long to tell her may feel to her like you’ve kept a secret from her. My suggestion would be to wait

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In Part 1 of Shy Girls Guide to Dating, I talked about how the social anxiety of dating can be so overwhelming for many people (nearly 40% of the population claim to be shy) that just the act of talking to someone new can be daunting enough to completely discourage interaction all together. Below, I offer distinct tips on how to

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It can be scary to set your sights on something new, especially when it comes to dating. I get asked all the time for tips on how to date if you feel shy. Allow me to share with you my Shy Girls' Guide to Dating. Dating for the introverts can feel like navigating a tough mudder competition; initially agonizing with lots of

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Dear Dr. Frankie,  I just got out of a 9 yr relationship. This woman cheated so much that I became a drug addict to cope and ended up in rehab and a psych ward because I tried to take my own life. I'm not proud of this and since then, we have been together whenever she feels lonely. In the mean

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I’m excited to be a featured speaker during the FREE ONLINE SERIES, 30 Day Matchmaker Miracle on Jan 22nd at 12noon (PST). My topic: "Fear of Engulfment vs. Fear of Abandonment." For 30 days starting today, Friday January 16th and ending on Valentine's Day February 14th, the leading Matchmakers are all coming together in ONE place to talk with YOU. Their combined

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