What *is* a Little Gay Book Lesbian/Bi "Single Mingle?"
Hosted by a trained Little Gay Book Event Host, a "Single Mingle" is a facilitated event focused on single queer women, meeting and getting to know each other, making real connections, leading to meaningful relationships. During the event, you will meet up to 12 women, in 5 minute dates, in less than 90 minutes.
Think of it as a series of "hosted introductions" similar to going to a house party with a competent host.
Our Event Hosts work hard to create an enviornment where each participant feels welcome, less awkward and meets women that she wouldn't normally meet. No need to pick anyone up, think about what you're going to talk about or worry that she won't be interested. Essentially, we get the place, we attract the women and all you have to do is show up!
Who Attends Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle? Will I Find Women "My" Age?
Majority of our participants are busy professionals--successful women who value their time. They come from all over, in all shapes, sizes, types AND ages. Surprisingly, it's not all women in one age group who attend. Often, we find a handful of one age group will attend (say 40-somethings), with a healthy side of other age groupers.
In certain markets (Chicago, Washington DC and San Francisco/Oakland), we've started hosting "age-specific" events. Age ranges include 21-39, 35+, 30-49 and 40-59. These events are generally quarterly and depend upon participant interest. We also host "Femme Seeking Femme" specific events as well as "Butch/Femme" events. If you're interested in attending one of those specific events, please contact us.
Generally, we advise that if you're truly open to meeting new women, you should attend more than one event, since you never know who you're going to meet.
How Does the Texting Algoriythum Work?
Prior to the event, you will receive an email and a text message with a link to your *confidential* speed dating profile. In your profile, you will be asked to provide 2 short answers: Where you fall on the masculine/feminine expression spectrum and where your preferred date falls on the same spectrum. Add the preferred age-range and you’re all set. The texting algorithm is designed to match your preferences as best it can, given who is in attendance and their selected preferences.
After each 5-minute round, you will receive a text message directing you to your next date. The more women that attend, the better! And while it’s not full matchmaking, this text messaging technology allows a more tailored experience than random, public speed dating.
How Do I Leave "Feedback" At The End of Each Five Minute Date?
At the end of each date, you’ll receive a "feedback" link. Feedback options include:
- 2nd Date
- Never Again*
*While everyone laughs at this one, it's to ensure that repeat participants don't go on 5-minute dates with people they've already met at previous Single Mingles.
You can choose one feedback option or all of them. We encourage you to choose more than one because the only way the system can "match" you after the event is only if both participants indicated the same feedback.
- Example: You indicate "2nd Date" and she indicates "Friend." = No Match.
- You indicate "2nd Date" AND "Friend" and she indicates "Friend." = Match on "Friend."
What Should I Talk About On My 5-Minute "Date?"
You'll see that once you start, the event just flows. By round three, most women are chatting and having a great time. In case you need more convincing, here are four tips:
- Think about what you'd want to know about her before going on a date with her.
- Avoid the "What do you do?" question. Seriously? This is a tired question. We all do many things in life. Ask her about them.
- Refrain from talking about Ex's. This is about the future. Keep your Ex's where they belong in the past.
- If you like her, try to stand out and differentiate yourself from the others in a positive way. Tasteful humor and a light-hearted demeanor go a long way.
To keep the conversation going, we offer a list of "sample questions," that include provocative questions like, "If you could be a superhero, what would your super-power be?"
What if I Really Like My Date-Can't I Just Ask Her Out Right Then?
While we can't stop you from asking her out, we ask that you refrain from taking this first step out of respect for other attendees. Adhering to this will keep possible uncomfortable situations from arising and encourage everyone to feel welcome. Want to be sure you'll see her again? Flirt with her a little and mark her as a "2nd Date," in your feedback link.
Want a Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle in your city?
We'd love to! Before we can launch, we need an Event Host.