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Oakland: Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle: May 11th and June 8th, 6:00pm All Ages

Date a person, not an app.

Do you want to meet more women, actually have conversations with them and not have to yell over the music? Then this event is just for you.

Specifically for women of all types, age 40+, Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle is open to all women looking for a woman lover. We are genderqueer, non-binary and trans-inclusive.

How a “Single Mingle” Works


You will receive an email or text with a link to your *CONFIDENTIAL* single mingle profile. If you do not receive an email or text, there is no need to worry–You will receive it when you check in.

In your CONFIDENTIAL/NOT AVAILABLE TO THE PUBLIC profile, you will be asked to provide 2 short answers related to where you fall on the masculine/feminine expression spectrum and where your preferred date falls on the same spectrum. Add the preferred age-range of your potential dates, and you’re all set.

The texting algorithm is designed to match your preferences as best as it can given who is in attendance and their selected preferences.



Our Event Host, Becky, will check you in, answer any questions, get you settled and make sure your phone is all set up to receive the event texts.

After each 5-7 minute round, you will receive a text message directing you to your next date. The more women that attend, the better! And while it’s not full matchmaking, this text messaging technology allows a more tailored experience than random, public speed dating.

At the end of each date, you’ll add “feedback” about your date (“2nd date,” or “friend” or “business”). When two singles indicate the same level of interest, we email you both with contact information.


Event Host, Dr. Frankie, will text and email you a link, within 24 hours, to your “matches.” You can match as “2nd date,” “friend” or “business.” Only if two people indicate the same level of interest, will a match be made.

For example, if you indicate “2nd date,” and she indicates “friend,” = no match.  If you both indicate “friend,” = match.
The rest is up to you.
Watch Dr Frankie describe what to expect in 1 minute

Yelp Reviews from previous attendees

I recently attended a speed dating event, and so far, it’s been an enjoyable experience being face to face and talking to so many ladies… – Tina G, Redwood City

…Painless and, actually, way more fun than I expected, I found something enjoyable in each of the thirteen 5-minute conversation blips… Lu K., Berkeley

I attended my first speed dating event and I had a great time! There were approximately 45 women present and I had 12 dates. I made a bunch of new friendships and a couple possible dates. – Danielle, Walnut Creek

Day Hour Minute Second Sat, May 11th, 6:00pm All Ages
Oakland District, 827 Washington Street, Oakland, CA

  • $30 Early Bird (sales end April 13th, 11:30pm)
  • $35 Week-of (ends Apr 20th, 5pm). No tickets at the door.

Reserve Your Seat for Sat May 11th All Ages Sat, June 8th, 6:00pm (All Ages)
Oakland District, 827 Washington Street, Oakland, CA

  • $30 Early Bird (sales end June 1th, 11:30pm)
  • $35 Week-of (ends June 8th, 5pm). No tickets at the door.

Reserve Your Seat for Sat, Jun 8th (All Ages)

Need more convincing?

Watch video testimonials from previous participants

Read our Single Mingle FAQ page

Read more reviews from previous participants

See video from a previous event at District

As the most successful exclusively lesbian/bi matchmaking agency in the US, Little Gay Book’s brand of lesbian/bi “single mingling” has brought more women together, in more cities, in less time than any other matchmaking agency. In this era of passive online dating and detached texting, we get you face to face, with real conversations, real connections and real 2nd dates.

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