Here’s the challenge (in addition to social distancing), there are thousands of fantastic single women in the Little Gay Book Matchmaking Database.
Traditionally, the way they are matched up is through my matchmaking programs.
I work with women privately as their matchmaker, providing them personalized tips, training, resources and coaching.
I comb through the Little Gay Book Matchmaking Database, looking at all the different profiles, reaching out to potential women, and doing video interviews to find my clients incredible dates.
In between their dates I give my clients direct feedback on how to make a great first impression, how to carry conversations forward, we might talk about their non verbal communication, or I might share customized hair, clothes, and beauty resources.
There’s so much happening behind the scenes to help make their dating experiences absolutely fantastic. It’s a very personalized, very involved process, that I’ve refined for over a decade to get the best possible results.
“Dr. Frankie or Hitch is one of those people who will make a big difference in your life. Hitch has been my dating coach for over four months now. I am a shy, overachieving nerd who has trouble setting boundaries and of course been looking for love in the wrong places. Hitch has made a positive impact on my life by giving me a makeover (yes, I look cooler), increased my confidence, balancing my work and personal life and of course gives me advice on how to approach the girls. I am most proud to say that Hitch has taught me about life and friendship because I know that hitch is also my friend.”
You’ll receive 2 private coaching sessions with me to integrate your experience, and learn how to use your natural strengths to attract the right partner (and repel the toxic ones).
Plus, you’ll get quality time to connect in private breakout rooms in pairs to share experiences and connect with the other women 1 to 1.
You’ll have peer support and accountability to practice building new habits in small groups, where you get to meet other fabulous single women on the journey.
“Prior to signing up, I was not making dating a priority and not knowing how to change this. I had stopped trying to look good. SSQ was empowering! The community was welcoming and friendly! I was shocked at how much I enjoyed the skill of practicing party for many reasons. There were practical tips that eased my resistance to recognizing my power to feel attractive again and enjoy being thoughtful about how I present myself. The most important part was that I grew fond of everyone in the program. I feel better about myself and have new friends!”
• Learn activities to gain mastery in increasing your self confidence
• Understand queer dynamics so you can feel sexy no matter where you fall on the butch-femme spectrum
• Complete a Lifestyle Questionnaire to help shine a light on your blind spots
• Learn the mindset flip that will address the #1 issue around getting dates
• Practice new skills to transform negative/automatic/unproductive thoughts
“After failures with online dating, the negative self-talk was building to a point where I was questioning my ability to attract women. I was struggling with early red flags to look out for and wanted to know where to meet people; what specific things to look for in finding long term, stable relationships and how to approach online dating. I longed for a sense of community in being able to connect with other like-minded, successful women that were also looking for the same things that I was. This program totally refreshed my perspective on dating. The section on “is it hormones or true love” was a powerful message in the training. I really enjoyed the breakout group time and how each week built up our confidence. I’m much more self-aware of my body language when out and about. Practice sparking conversations is now a focus of mine. I’m also more strategic in where to meet women as well. Thank you Dr. Frankie for putting your heart and soul into facilitating this powerful course, it was wonderful, fulfilling, and was managed meticulously. The quality and quantity of the takeaways was more than I could have ever imagined, all being delivered with a practical yet caring touch. Bringing women together from all over the country via an online platform is no easy feat, but it was conducted effortlessly. You will be invited to my wedding soon enough!”
• Learn super easy ways to highlight your best features
• Identify your body type and the best jean cuts/fits for your exact body shape and personal style.
• Discover different ways to enhance your beautiful eyes
• Receive personalized tutorials that I’ll hand pick just for YOU taking into consideration where you are on the butch-femme spectrum and what looks you want to play with
• Explore skincare treatments and beauty, hair, and grooming products that will have you feeling for your best.
• Get my secret resources for a wardrobe update/refresh (this is especially great if you hate shopping!)
• Experience a safe space to celebrate and practice showing off your swagger
“I also felt comfortable with my makeup and attire, and had worked with a private therapist, so I was hesitant to sign up. BUT, I wanted to meet quality women, and yet had proclaimed myself “anti-social,” saying that I value my time alone and using that as an excuse to not invest in myself or put myself out there to meet women. I decided, if I was going to do this, then I would be “all in,” and actually take action and see what happens. Positive results! I loved Dr. Frankie’s openness and honesty providing insight and tips. I also loved interacting with small groups. This surprised me as I’m not a group zoom person! I also loved the changes I made to skincare and clothing based on just this program! I have more confidence in myself overall. My close straight friend is also looking to date & she signed up for a high-end dating site, costing $25,000 for 15 months – and that’s the starting cost. I know that she is not getting nearly as much coaching, practical tips, insights, analysis as Dr. Frankie offered. I shared some things with her and she was very impressed! Thank you Dr. Frankie for having this amazing program, for offering insight, being real, and over delivering!”
• Explore how to flirt during Covid through text, online, and Zoom, as well as in real life- and how to know when others are flirting with you
• Practice skill building in a safe space around striking up a conversation online and in person with a woman you are attracted to
• Learn this rarely discussed approach that will help you to never have awkward conversations online and in person
• Learn the secrets to finding where your Ms. Right is hiding
• Be challenged to stretch yourself outside of your comfort zone
• Get clarity on if you are actually compatible with Her (or if it’s just hormones)
• Learn the 6 qualifiers for finding long term love
• Identify how you love when you are at your best (assessment)
“SSQ was a safe place for women to come together to learn how to put our best foot forward when seeking a healthy relationship. The weekly content and home assignments provided a wealth of knowledge. It’s not often you get the opportunity to work with someone like Dr. Frankie and I made sure I took a ton of notes. The process was very straightforward in a welcoming environment. The topics were absolutely amazing and I loved the breakout session exercises. I feel much more confident to talk to women. I took Dr. Frankie’s advice and complimented a woman at Starbucks on my way to work. She was on her phone checking her Facebook page and looked surprised that I spoke to her but she was really appreciative. We bumped into each other the next day at Starbucks and she waved! I am using this pandemic to continue to work on myself – I learned so much about myself in just 5 weeks and I plan to continue building on the foundation. You have to be an active participant in changing your life!”
• Complete a Support System Evaluation so you can have support for all areas of your life
• Learn how to work with and silence your inner critic
• Learn the steps to transform toxic thoughts to healthy thoughts
• Get practice trusting yourself
• Discover your natural relationship & communication behaviors so you can better understand future partner dynamics (assessment)
• Celebrate your wins in a circle of supportive women rooting for your best!!
“I was lacking a sense of growing community and wondering how to find like-minded LGBT women. In participating in Single, Sexy, & Queer, I found it so much more enjoyable to meet new women in a learning environment because we were primarily peers and having a shared journey through the weekly topics. We had a chance to start getting to know each other without any premature focus on attraction. I really appreciated that! I loved being able to learn and grow with a group of lesbian women- and feeling part of the group! I appreciated getting to know everyone either through the breakouts or just seeing everyone each week.
It became more comfortable and more fun with each session. My engagement increased throughout the program by doing each session’s homework and also through my one-on-one with Dr. Frankie. My social life feels more expanded. Thank you Dr. Frankie for taking such a respectful, intelligent, high-quality approach to the work you do, to the process of helping women meet each other, and to the work of creating a community and network of professional LGBT women.”
We will end our time together taking everything you learned and practicing your skills with high-caliber women like yourself, to prepare you for the real world.
The SINGLE, SEXY & QUEER “Practice Your Skills” Party is a fun, invitation-only, speed dating party that will be a combination of women from the program and a range of women on the butch-femme spectrum that I’ve handpicked to sprinkle into the party with each woman in the program in mind.
And to keep things fun, a little mysterious, and low pressure- you won’t know who’s been picked for you. That way you can stay focused on practicing your skills with each woman and if there’s a spark- even better! Regardless of what happens at the Skill Practicing Party, at the end of the program you will have the knowledge, skills and confidence to find your special someone when you are out working your magic in the world.
“I get very discouraged with any kind of rejection and I had a sense that there were things I was doing or not doing to attract woman, which is why I signed up for Single, Sexy, & Queer. I loved the instant feeling of community and sharing experiences with the other women in SSQ. Realizing that my experiences were not unique really helped. There was a good combination of feeling safe while I was stepping out of some comfort zones. I’ve had total frustration with online dating. During the program, I learned I was not letting people know I was interested. I got concrete tools that have already changed how I am approaching dating which feels great. It really made a clear, quantifiable difference in my romantic life. Thank you Dr. Frankie for your straightforward approach to things. It felt really easy to get advice and direction from you, without a whiff of judgment. It was also obvious how much you enjoy what you do which was lovely to be around. Thanks for using all your skills and smarts to bring more love into the world :)”
“At times I’ve felt like I didn’t belong in the Queer Community. In joining Single, Sexy, and Queer, I didn’t feel alone. Doing the exercises made me realize how often I avoid certain situations, interactions, and events and yet remained bewildered that I wasn’t meeting people I could connect with. I loved that I got to break out in groups with other women to talk about our exercises, the struggles we had with them, and the successes. The exercises and talking about our experiences with them pushed the accountability on me to make sure I was participating. If I hadn’t joined SSQ, I would probably be passively moving through life and the pandemic, casually dipping into dating apps and hoping that my perfect person would jump at my screen and we’d go riding off into the socially distanced sunset together. I now look at dating and meeting potential partners in a completely different lens. Instead of casually looking through dating apps and seeing who pops up, I go in with intention and a very specific mindset. Thank you Dr. Frankie for pushing me to not only look at myself, but to make me think about what is really important in my life and what I want in a partner. It was so much fun! I still can’t believe how much I learned and how different I feel after only a month-long program.”
For all the help you gave me during the time I was trying to come to grips with a fading relationship and preparing for a new journey of self-discovery. The work of really diving into my own strengths, weaknesses as well as my desires for partner characteristics prepared me for a wonderful life with my wife of two years. Being vulnerable enough to take a look at my own behavior(s) and how it impacts my relationships was a crucial element in helping me to find my true life partner. Thank you once again for your insights, provocative questions, as well as your kind, wise words.”
“Dr. Frankie is someone who truly cares about the happiness and well being of her clients. She impressed me immediately with her ability to connect with me and as a result provided me with insight that truly resonated. Dr. Frankie is thoughtful, empathic, and most importantly non-judgemental. She was able to meet me on my level and responded in a warm and healing way. She took the time to really understand the issues I brought up, even if it occasionally meant going beyond my 50 minute session. I have recommended Dr. Frankie to several of my closest friends, and I recommend her to you without hesitation!”
“When I first signed up, I was nervous. I think all of us have had our fair share of experiences gone wrong that made us take the serious decision to invest in ourselves with this program. I was losing hope in finding a partner and was waiting on the pandemic to end to do something about dating. So I wasn’t sure if I would receive the value I paid for in this program. But I am SO happy that I did make the decision- I received a lot of valuable, life changing information. My confidence has definitely improved significantly, I don’t put myself down and instead reframe my thinking, and I make it a priority to take care of myself first. I loved the group coaching calls and the breakout room exercises which allowed me to talk with others an apply what we learned in practical ways. The process flowed easily despite my busy schedule. Thank you Dr. Frankie for believing in me (and all of us!). I sincerely thank you for creating this coaching program to help us prepare with dating even during these troubling times.”
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“Before joining SSQ I was struggling with a less than optimistic view of dating. One of my favorite parts of the program was meeting the participants and getting an opportunity to interact with the women online in private breakout rooms. Now I feel more confident, not just in myself but in a new way – that I will meet a beautiful woman, recognize her, and be able to take that leap to start that conversation. I know what my heart needs and wants and what it doesn’t. People show you who they are in life. I’m paying attention in a new way. Heart and mind are open. I leave this program optimistic about my love life! Especially in the space we are in now with the world turned upside down and inside, I am more optimistic after the 4 weeks of quarantine with this program than I ever have been before. I also recognize the importance of having a lesbian network of friends and have started fostering this. Thank you for bringing women together!”
“Trying to date on apps has been frustrating. I was constantly being catfished, ghosted, or women weren’t over their divorces or they weren’t truly committed to dating. Before signing up for Single, Sexy, & Queer, I had been scammed 4X in a 3 month period from texting women for a month with nothing to show for it like a phone call or video chat. I had a broken heart at least twice. Enter Dr. Frankie Bashan. I trust Dr Bashan explicitly. She is a World Class Dating Coach with a sterling reputation known for her innovative, creative work with the LGBTQ Community. Her Single, Sexy, & Queer program has so many smart, diverse women who were in from around the US and overseas who showed up to really work on their dating issues. I never felt anyone who showed up wasn’t there to work or hadn’t really shown up! All seemed willing to share their experiences, lessons learned, as well as failures, and had empathy for those of us coming out late in life! The program topics were interesting, engaging, and extremely informative! I enjoyed meeting women up close in the breakouts for discussions on various topics because it provided new ideas and solutions to others issues; helped you feel you aren’t alone and heard others stories and how they are problem solving. The 1:1 Coaching helped each person focus on their own personal issue. Having a Question and Answer Session with each weekly session helped to clear up things that might not be clear; dispel misconceptions. I highly recommend Dr Bashan’s Single, Sexy and Queer Dating Course and curriculum for those seeking better dating experiences, how to fix their mindset if having difficulty dating and those wanting innovative, creative, proven methods to dating!”
“Dr. Frankie built a community with everyone in the cohort. It was a very warm, inclusive, and eye opening. It was a comfortable and immersive learning process. I loved it. I especially appreciate the way the course is constructed and that all the women in the group are very supportive and open to share their experiences with one another. I feel more empowered and motivated.”
“Single, Sexy & Queer came up at a great time for me. I was in the process of working on myself and was ready to make new connections with lesbian women. The format of SSQ for me was perfect. The material and information each week were interesting and thought-provoking, and the homework assignments kept me engaged without feeling like it was too much. I was exposed to information that I did not know about, which made me think about myself and my behaviors in new ways. I loved the comfort level of the group, and how that comfort level increased each week was a great experience. Talking through a lesson or a discussion point in the breakout room sessions was very helpful to help process the information and get practice at interacting with different women. I am more relaxed and comfortable in my communications and interactions with women I meet. The combination of the online program, online speed dating and online community have been life-changing for me. There is nothing like this anywhere!”
“Thank you Dr. Frankie for putting the program together to help the community. Thank you for finding a way to do it in such a personal way by sharing your wisdom and expertise with the group and also with each individual. For me at least, that really built trust, and I enjoyed the program very much. I felt like I was being teased out of my comfort zone, in a good way, and it made me feel more comfortable and confident. I really liked the personal growth tools that were shared, and the breakout sessions to discuss them. I feel more confident and am willing to try new places to meet people as well as new approaches to actually meeting and mingling. ”
“What’s so effective about Dr. Frankie is that she’s a no BS kinda gal. She told me the harsh truth about myself!! Point blank. No sugar coating. Sometimes it was hard to hear, but that’s why I wanted to work with her; to be better at dating and relationships. Her eyes definitely bulged at times listening to my sad tales, and immediately called me out on my $hit!! It was hilarious. The humor eased the pain of hearing the truth about myself LOL. After so many failed relationships and dating disasters, I took a hard look at myself and acknowledged my contributions to each and every scenario. I wasn’t dating anyone at the time of the coaching, but I wanted to set the stage for the future life I know I want. Several months after the coaching when opportunities in the romance department came up, I wasn’t slipping back into old patterns and was making the connections I so desperately wanted. Live your best life… if your romantic life isn’t what you want, do something about it. I’m grateful for making the investment in myself by working with Dr. Frankie.”
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